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Donna Jones Informative November 23, 2013

THE MANIPULATION AND DECEIT OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE


I have come out on the other side of abuse. I hope to never go back there again. I did not escape unscathed. I learned a great many lessons, and I bare a great many scars both inside and out. I hope to use this knowledge as a way to help people. I want to be the voice for so many that canít find theirs. I want to reach out to educate people on how abuse starts and what to watch out for in their relationships to prevent some from falling victim to it. I want to reach out to the ones that are already in an abusive relationship, possibly feeling trapped by the situation and confused as to how to get protection or escape. There is help, there is hope, and there is peace and happiness beyond abuse. Together we will get you there.

Some of the lies you are hearing appear to be truth, you try to rationalize them, and you make excuses to others. You bide your time all the while hoping for a change that will never come. Feeling deep within you the pulling, knowing the difference between right and wrong. Knowing what you should do, but for some reason not make any move that would improve the situation or secure the safety for you or perhaps the safety of children that may be involved. Perhaps fear keeps you there. Perhaps loveÖ whatever it is you know what you must do. Being beaten down and having your dignity and self-respect ripped away takes your ability to have rational thoughts and rational feelings, you are not alone. They weaken your spirit and your mind, as well as your body. That is how they keep you. You are being held captive as if you were behind lock and key. You are right where they want you to be, it is up to you to break your chains. You must do it before itís too late.

  •      They tell you they love you.
  •      THEY DON'T.

  •      They tell you they are sorry and they will stop.
  •      THE AREN'T AND THEY WON'T. WITHOUT HELPÖ.THEY CAN'T IT'S A MENTAL ILLNESS AND THEY WILL NEVER STOP.

  •      They tell everyone there is something wrong with you.
  •      THERE ISN'T... WITH ME IT WAS THAT I WAS CRAZY, SO IF I EVER TOLD ON HIM NO ONE WOULD BELIEVE ME.

  •      They tell you itís your fault.
  •      IT'S NOT, YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME, IT'S THEIR ILLNESS NOT YOURS.

  •      They tell you that you are nothing you are worthless, they make you do things that make you feel and look worthless, they control you and keep you by any means necessary.
  •      YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE AND WILL FIND LOVE AND HAPPINESS AGAIN. LIFE DOES EXIST BEYOND THE ABUSE. IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT YOU HAVE
         DONE IN CAPTIVITY, YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME, AND YOU WILL NOT BE JUDGED, THEY WILL BE.

  •      They threaten your life, your family's life, and your children's lives if you leave, they break your bones and beat you so badly you believe it.
  •      THIS IS WHERE YOU HAVE TO GET BRAVE... YOU HAVE TO LISTEN TO ME... YOU HAVE TO TRUST ME... YOU HAVE TO TRUST YOU...

  •      They hope to weaken the police in your eyes. They say the police can't help you.
  •      THEY CAN AND THEY WILL, LET THEM...

TELL YOUR FAMILY, TELL YOUR FRIENDS, TELL YOUR DOCTOR, TELL ANYONE, TELL EVERYONE!
It will hurt like hell because you love them, no one but another abuse victim will understand that, you love them. You have made excuses for them and taken blame for them. You have protected them, and longed for the time in your relationship before the hitting began.... you love them. It will hurt like hell, but so does the pain and suffering you are enduring at the hands of the one person who was supposed to protect you...... nothing, NOTHING, hurts worse than that. I promise, it gets better, then you come out on the other side and itís like a veil is lifted.... a shroud of pain and deceit..... you can see things for what they really are and begin to heal.

So.... take that first step, and get out, get help and get well..... you deserve it.
I know I did.



Donna J. Jones
J-L Concepts, Co-Owner

 
 


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